Most Young Men Are Painfully Lonely
And no one is coming to save them.
The picture of an ideal man in Western culture looks weird and kind of contradictory.
The ideal man is strong, stoic, financially successful, yet simultaneously emotionally intelligent, sensitive (but not too sensitive), and loving. The ideal man in Western culture looks a lot like Superman.
Actually, no… The ideal man in Western culture is better than Superman. Superman would probably be too much of a workaholic, and he definitely hasn’t processed enough of his trauma to be a good partner or an ideal man.
The ideal man isn’t like Superman, either. The ideal man is, well, ideal.
He’s a fictional character created by the culture that he stems from. He doesn’t exist anywhere except for a comic book, a movie, and the imaginations of every person who desires an ideal man or desires to be an ideal man.
The problem is, most men who are trying to be “ideal men” are falling way short, and it’s ruining their lives. Or is something else at play? Masculinity is complex, confusing, and evolving. Many of us have not kept up.
Are you a real man?
I used to think that “real men” were tall, strong, stoic, and full of drive and ambition. I thought real…
