I’m going to be completely honest with you: this last month has been insane.
Between my relationship blowing up in my face a few weeks ago, my constant traveling across the country training and competing in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, and my workload between teaching Jiu-Jitsu and freelancing nearly tripling in just the last few weeks, I just want a freaking break. I guess it’s mostly self-inflicted, but I’m pretty stressed out over here.
The problem is, well, I can’t have a break. There is no time. This is life. There are expectations. I have responsibilities. I can't just hide on a…
If there’s anything I feel qualified to speak on, it’s the physical and mental health benefits of martial arts. I have a lifetime of experience in combat sports, specifically wrestling and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
Okay, I lied. Not really a lifetime of experience—nearly 12 years to be exact. But for teenage victims of police brutality like 13-year-old Adam Toledo, that is a lifetime.
The most frustrating part about the worldwide police brutality problem is that there aren’t really any “good” solutions being thrown around to combat the outrage. …
If you could stop a car accident before it happened, would you?
I’m sure most of us would say yes.
But if today you found out that you had a high chance of developing liver cancer due to your genetics, would you still drink alcohol? That’s a much more complicated question.
In the future, it’s entirely possible that biomedical diagnostic tools will be able to predict illnesses years before they occur. …
Of all the concepts that people in self-improvement love to preach, “self-love” is the most complicated one. It’s complicated because, well, it’s actually good advice.
You should love yourself. You should treat yourself like someone who you are responsible for helping because you are someone who you are responsible for helping.
You should also practice self-care. By self-care, I don’t mean bubble baths (though if that’s your thing don’t let me stop you), I mean that you should do things like practicing good nutrition, healthy social interactions, regular sleep, exercise, and all that stuff.
But still, something about self-love bothers…
We all make excuses. A lot of them. The average American will make 2,190 excuses per year, and though most of them are used to justify small choices like skipping sunscreen applications, our excuses can have long-term effects on the life that we’re able to live.
But did you that there are good excuses? I don’t mean excuses that do no harm, but excuses that will help you grow into the person you’ve always wanted to be. That’s right, you can “excuse” your way to happiness.
There might never be a billboard telling you to “make more excuses” or a…
Once, when I 12, I visited my aunt and uncle at my grandparent's house in North Carolina with my sister, who was about 8 at the time.
One sunny afternoon during the trip, my sister and I were sitting on the porch with my uncle drinking sweet tea as we always did when we went down to the South to visit family. As a 12-year-old with a full-flung sugar addiction, my Grandma’s sweet tea was like liquid crack.
“Samantha, what do you want to be when you grow up?” my Uncle Mark asked my sister. He had that thick Southern…
“Self-awareness” seems to be the new self-help buzzphrase lately. Internet gurus like Gary Vaynerchuk or Mark Manson have made piles of content about its importance, and it seems like everyone is obsessed with “knowing themselves” in some form or another.
At the same time, the typical interpretation of self-awareness is vague at best and harmful at worst.
Traditional self-help books often seek to help us recognize the parts of ourselves that are flawed and need to be improved. A few years ago, I read a book called Unf*ck Yourself. The title alone implied that I was “f*cked” and needed help…
When quarantine began around this time last year, all of my friends and family members were terrified and on the cusp of losing their sanity. Each day presented a new challenge that we hadn't faced before, and it felt like the world around us was caving in. Everyone close to me was terrified.
Call me crazy or in denial, but I wasn’t scared at all.
I wanted to be scared and anxious like the rest of the world, but I just couldn’t muster a worry. I was convinced that everything was going to be okay. …
We’re well past the honeymoon phase, Jiu-Jitsu and I. In fact, it’s right around our 6th anniversary. We’re long past the honeymoon phase. I mean, you could say we’re basically married.
Like any relationship, there are good days, bad days, and days where I don’t really feel much of anything at all. Sometimes I think I’m going to do this forever, and some days I want to quit and ride off on my horseback into the sunset.
But I guess that’s love.
Today’s one of the especially good days, so I figured I’d write something to express the gratitude I…