20 Habits That Will Ruin Your 20s

A comprehensive guide to ruining “the best years of your life”.

Chris Wojcik
5 min readFeb 9, 2022


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I don’t know if I really think that your 20s are “the best years of your life”, but a lot of people seem to say that they are.

The truth is, your 20s are a giant clusterfuck if you don’t work to get your shit together. In your 20s, you will likely be physically healthier than any other decade of your life. You will have fewer responsibilities than any other decade in your life. It will be easier to make changes in your 20s than in any other decade in your life.

These are 20 habits that will ruin your ability to make your “roaring 20s” into your “stable 30s”.

Cheating (in anything).

Just don’t do it, especially if you want to look at yourself in the mirror later that day.

The best way to increase your aging process is to become an unethical human being.

Hooking up with people you barely know.

I did this a lot in college. I never felt good about it. It was never fun.

Don’t let me hold you back, but hooking up with strangers was not for me.

Drinking (a lot of) alcohol.

Nothing makes me feel worse than knocking back a few beers when I could just have a Topo Chico or a La Croix. Sorry if I’m weird for saying that. (I love caffeine-free Diet Coke, by the way, the official soda of athletes with anxiety!)

Moderation, I guess, but alcohol has never actually helped me make my life better — besides maybe teaching me what not to do. If you struggle with anxiety, depression, or dissociation, alcohol will be like a band-aid for a deep flesh wound.

Pretending you’re tough.

Being a “tough guy” helped me with zero things in my life ever. The tougher you attempt to appear, the weaker you seem. Toughness is being vulnerable and dealing with the consequences of your vulnerability.

Most of the time, people act tough because they’re weak and insecure.

Staying in relationships that are draining in the name